Why you don't feel like you belong - and how to change that

Ever felt like you don’t quite belong - whether with family, at work, or among friends? These two key truths might help you find your place and feel more at ease.

Have you ever felt like you don’t quite fit in - whether with your family, at work, or within a friendship group? If so, I hear you. It’s something I struggled with for most of my life. And while I’ve done a lot of inner work to overcome it, it still sneaks up on me from time to time.

Lately, I’ve been reflecting on this feeling again, especially as I navigate some recent changes. And I wanted to share a few thoughts with you.

Navigating the 'In-Between' Spaces

I recently went through another dark night of the soul - my second major spiritual shift since 2018. This one had me re-questioning where I ‘fit’.

I feel incredibly drawn to God, something I didn’t experience before I had my spiritual awakening in 2018. But at the same time, I don’t feel like I belong in the church. And as I wrestled with this, I realised I had a deep-rooted fear of being shunned - not just by churchgoers or those who strongly identify with religion, but also by those who knew me as the ‘psychic medium’ version of myself.

It left me feeling like I was in no-man’s land, neither here nor there. And that led me down a path of soul-searching and, let’s be honest - a whole lot of Googling!

Through that journey, I was reminded of two important truths, and I want to share them with you today.

1. No matter what you choose, some people won’t like it - and that’s okay.

As I searched for clarity, I found myself diving deep into the world of Christianity, only to discover just how many different factions and movements exist within it.

For example, I love listening to Joyce Meyer and Terri Savelle Foy - their teachings inspire me! But when I started researching more about the Christian world, I stumbled across entire threads on Quora and other forums where people were passionately debating their teachings, calling Joyce specifically a false prophet or false teacher. It was quite a surprise.

It was a reminder that no matter what you do, there will always be people who disagree with you.

There will always be someone who thinks you need to change, who doesn’t resonate with your path, or who believes you should be doing things differently. But that’s okay. We are all on different journeys. What truly matters is that you are living in alignment with your heart, acting with integrity, and putting good into the world.

2. Self-acceptance is more important than the approval of others.

We can’t spend our lives twisting and contorting ourselves to fit the expectations of those around us. That just doesn’t work.

You were placed on this earth to follow your own unique path, to live your purpose, and to pursue what truly lights you up. But ask yourself:

• Are you fully aligned with the life you want to live?

• Or are there parts of you that are still trying to please others at the expense of your own happiness?

The truth is, you will never feel like you truly belong if you don’t accept yourself first.

Belonging isn’t about finding the ‘right group’ - it’s an inside job. So often, we don’t feel like we fit in because we’re rejecting or repressing parts of ourselves just to be accepted by others. The moment you fully embrace who you are, the people who are meant for you will naturally be drawn to you, and you’ll find yourself more at ease in the world.

A gentle nudge towards self-love

Self-love is the foundation of self-acceptance. If you’re looking for a place to start, I’ve created a 7-Day Self-Love Reset Workbook, which you can download for free here:
👉 Download the Self-Love Reset - I hope it helps you on your journey!

And if you’d like to go even deeper, my Rise and Thrive group coaching programme kicks off on April 27th. It’s designed to help you awaken your confidence and step into your power. You can explore more details here:
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If you have any questions, feel free to reach out - I’d love to hear from you!

With love,
Gemma 💛